In this increasing world of technology, we find that meeting people can happen anywhere from church, school, or the grocery store, to internet chat rooms and online games. I happen to have met a gentleman online over 7 months ago. We have spent time IM-ing and emailing and then progressed to texting and talking on the phone and are about to meet face to face. Many are skeptical, saying there must be other ways to meet someone so you can know them better, on a more real world level. Others are adamant that online meeting is taboo, creating a sense of relationship without connection. Others feel it is an awesome avenue, especially for those opposed to the bar scene or who are too busy to get out and hang with others consistently.
I personally stand on the fence, to be honest, for I have had bad experiences and good experiences from meeting people online. I have also met people who have had horrific experiences online, but I also know two couples who have actually met someone online and are happily married. Either way you look at it, you have to admit, in this world of technology and the ever shrinking global community, meeting online is becoming the norm in today’s society. With much caution, even more prayer, and the hope that God will lead my heart and mind in His ways, I excitedly look forward to what God brings into my life, be it someone who lives down the street, someone who attends my church, or someone I meet by chance in the grocery store or online. There is an excitement and air of giddiness when you have talked to someone for months and will finally be meeting face to face. It is kind of like pen-pals that finally get to put a face to the personality they have been getting to know letter after letter. I happily proceed into the technology of online friends and online dating, but remain open to the people God places right in front of me as well.
I have been single for 10 years now and have been growing ever stronger in my walk with God, trusting that He will only open doors that He desires me to walk through, and knowing with full confidence that He will close the doors He wants me to walk away from. The primary struggle at this point with any relationship is that of the flesh. The desire to move faster than God intends due to fleshly desires and emotional loneliness that pulls one down toward temptation is strong and must be combated consistently and fervently with prayer, meditation on God’s word, strong boundaries, and Christian accountability partners. With full assurance that as I walk in obedience with God He will give me the desires of my heart, I wait on His timing and allow Him to lead me in all my ways and give me strength to resist temptation and WAIT.
For anyone else embarking on the journey of online friendships and dating, I caution you to take things slowly and trust and seek God’s guidance through His word and in prayer. I also ask that you find Christian friends in your inner circle to keep you accountable to God and self. I pray you enjoy life as I have and that you remain open to whatever God has planned for you my friend. May the Lord bless you and keep you in the palm of His hand, fill your desires to the fullest and pour continual love into the emotional loneliness of life. All my love.
I wait on the Lord, my soul doth wait, and in His word I do hope. Psalm 130:5
Face to Face
The chance encounter now becoming real
Meeting face to face
Wondering how it will feel
Giddy as a school child
Trying hard to surrender it all
Unsure of what is to come
Attempting to let expectations fall
Feels like forever
Utterly amazed at where God has taken me
Hoping for a true friend
Perhaps more, but I have to wait and see
Meeting in the middle of uncertainty
Allowing God to lead
Trusting in His sovereignty
Desires of the heart at an impasse
Waiting to see
Protecting this heart of glass
One day at a time
Releasing emotions to my Lord, my God
Knowing we both are flawed
Resting in the God’s grace
Wanting to see you
Waiting to finally meet face to face